Potential Husbands don't hang out where Twerkers do... #HeAintThere

What would make you think that a man who is looking for a wife to be committed to and to possibly mother is children would be inclined to seek her out in a club or bar or party full of over sexed men and women half naked. The mind of a marrying man has matured and has come to a place in hi life in which all foolishness and playing around has ended. He is not interested in sharing her with anyone and knows that a woman who will twerk or shake her booty in the face of this man, is not ready to settle down yet. Maturity seeks out maturity. There may be men hanging out where you are going, and they may look good to you and you to them. They are not however men who are looking to make the pole sliding thick chick full of singles and glitter, their one and only. Sexy is sexy with clothes on, modest, and with dignity and class. Keep yours!

How to make yourself irresistable to Men that Marry!

"The shape of your body is not as important as the shape of your mind. Invest in good thinking, and a healthy heart. #IntelligenceIsSexy" The world we live in and the media that seems to guide it's decisions and thinking has convinced women and some men that sexy is only found in the shape of a woman's body. Be it a large chest size or a round back side, we have been hypnotized with the belief that sexy is all about the frame. Truth is, that most men who marry are not at all that interested in their woman having perfect curves or a beach body shape. Most are attracted to and turned on by a woman who can share intimate moments with him in stimulating thought and dialogue. Being able to talk about the future and having hopes, dreams and goals that can be articulated clearly and with color are an aphrodisiac. I'd encourage every woman to make sure that as she is getting that body right, not to forget to put much more into her mind. Read, study, and learn about the world around you, and about yourself. As you fill your head with knowledge and listen to those with wisdom, you will begin to realize your own value and self worth. Confidence is exuded from a woman who understands that she does not have to display her private parts fully or partially in order to be found attractive or approachable by a quality Man. Real men appreciate real women for who they are inside. #WaysToTell..... Min. Kenny Martin Jr. Email: waystotell@gmail.com To ask a question!

Q: I've known this guy going on 5 years...we dated here and there but he always seemed "emotionally unavailable" .......

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Q: I've known this guy going on 5 years...we dated here and there but he always seemed "emotionally unavailable" so I would keep it moving. He continued to contact despite no answers and call backs. Now we are back on speaking terms and he wants to focus on frienship, no sex which is very good. However, he told me when I asked him about expectations that I can choose to date or not date other people. He calls everyday for brief conversations. I feel like this is very confusing and mixed messages. Am I on the right track with my thinking? Oh btw...invites me over very often (no sex or sexual moves or conversation about it). We cook and watch movies and its all good. But the date other people I want and we are just friends throws me off.

#WaysToTell.....A:
Sounds a bit weird for a straight up regular guy that is actually interested in you and desirous of a serious relationship with the potential for a future and marriage. Men who are ready don't play those types of games. Just because he has not said sex does not mean he is not thinking sex....we men have learned what it takes to keep you interested and what turns you off early.... If you are ready for a committed relationship, I would let this game player do another way and clearly communicate your intentions...or if you are interested in him you must Bluntly ask him if he wants to be married at some point, how soon, and such...

If you give him the chance to like "it" ...he may never put a ring on it.....#AllTheSingleLadies

If you give him the chance to like "it" ...he may never put a ring on it.....#AllTheSingleLadies

Many woman who have already given themselves to the one they hoped would be with them forever before entering into marriage will not get what they hoped for. You cannot teas a man into marrying you. Your games are countered by his games, and it's the one who give in first that loses out. Do not allow yourself to fall for the lie that he loves you so much and wants to be close to you and knows that you are the woman for him if he has not followed that up with a ring. Your emotional characteristics can many times be the very things that he can use to manipulate your body into doing what your mouth said you never would do. A man that wants to commit his life together with you knows that the joy and beauty will be the wonderful consummation of the two of you after you have vowed to be together forever. If you let him taste it, enjoy it, experience it, and encounter it, he may like it but so will you and he will know that you will give it without him ever putting a ring on your finger! Don't fall for it! #WomanUp

Q: Why don't SOME men (Not ALL), nowadays feel the need to "Pursue" (Not CHASE) a woman anymore??? What Stops the pursuit? - Part 1

Q: Why don't SOME men (Not ALL), nowadays feel the need to "Pursue" (Not CHASE) a woman anymore??? What Stops the pursuit?

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Women are unfortunately not willing to wait to be pursued in most cases (or shall I say many) and they seem to be running after men. Men realize this, and therefore what is the need for pursuance if she is the chaser.... Also, they are not being taught by any reliable, consistent, life exemplifying role models to do such... and therefore are taking their instructions from the girls that run up on them, drop it like its hot on screen and camera, sext them, flirt with them, fight over them and call them. The media has been the instructor for our men and their lesson is, play boys cause there is plenty to go around.... sad but true.

A woman who is modest, chaste, and conservative, without a nasty attitude, soft, aware of herself, and in love with living will have no problem attracting men who pursue....

 

MORE TO COME....

The choices you're making now are impacting your relationships of tomorrow...

Choosing to wait or to go ahead and give yourself to someone that you are not in a covenant relationship with (married to) and sharing that most precious gift with them will impact the relationship you will have when you do get married. We share our souls and are bonded with every one that we give ourselves to sexually whether we believe it or not. The very act is a more than just a natural exercise in pleasure and physical release. It is a joining together of two souls and two spirits in oneness and just like melting a smores with marshmallow and chocolate between to graham crackers is unable to be separated, so is the ties between those who come together in intercourse. Just consider whether or not this is something you want to live with and carry into the rest of your life. It can and will impact your relationship of tomorrow...take a moment and make a choice to wait.

My Inspiration for my dissertations...(Why I 'm writing these blogs)

I feel obligated to share information like that on this page as I am married, have a mother, sister, daughters, cousins, aunts, and friends and I believe that they are each entitled to the best that God has and should not feel the need to settle for craziness. Women indeed out number men in most any setting and therefore often lower their standards for the purpose of companionship. This is not consistent with God's perfect will for your lives. He calls you a "good thing" and a blessing to be found. So the words I share are to encourage you and remind you of your God given worth and value. This is not to blast men,but to inform women! #FromMyHeart

He will not front you out in front of his family...if he likes you #WaysToTell

His family may have their own opinion about you and may criticize everything you are and do. However, a man that likes you will not leave you hanging and front you out when in the presence of his family or anytime else for that matter. What do I mean by this? Well, let's just say you like to shop at certain places and prefer certain brands and his family have a difference of opinion when it comes to shopping and he knows that. A man that likes you will not entertain them talking to you critically in his presence and then team up with them to make a point against you when in their presence. It just wont happen. So if you experience this regularly then you may want to re-evaluate his motives. 

If he refuses to call your home too early or too late out of respect to your house....he likes you #WaysToTell

Men that consider you and your household to be important more than their desire to communicate with you are ones that respect you and really care about you. It is easy for men to think with their lustful mind and eyes and disregard time, place, or people involved. You have to pay attention to this and resist the urge to allow your own hormones and feelings of being considered, desired, and needed to kick in at this point. He can and should wait til an appropriate time to call you, and you should expect that from him. Giving in and allowing this to be the norm will only create a situation in the "relationship" where disrespect and dishonor can breed. A man that looks upon you as a jewel worthy of the best, will wait for you and put his feelings aside in order to honor you as a Lady!

The truth is that even if you've put up with and been in love with someone who does not "like" you based on these tips, all is not lost...Love will find you still! #smile

Please don't be discouraged and feel as if life will pass you by and love will never find you. Your experiences more than likely were stimulated by what you knew to be the right way and or what your heart was telling you at the time. Most of us are not instructed on the ways of dating, relationships and the opposite sex are learned by what we see others do or what is shown to us in the movies and television. In most cases we never get any real teaching on how to go about dating and what to expect from it. The truth of this does not pronounce a final judgement upon your life in the area of love. Hopefully this will cause you to identify unhealthy and healthy situations much clearer. A man is indeed looking for you, and you will be loved and love again! #I Believe it!

Writing the Book..... Working on the outline and structure

So I am getting the book started and I believe it is going to be something great.  It will of course be a ready resource for all you women who are curious, wondering and have questions as to what is really going on the mind of that man who keeps giving you the time of day, but will not commit. This book will be based on my own personal experiences and insight received from men and women from various walks of life. It is possible to understand the mind of a man ad I believe it is done through hearing the voice of another man who speaks with clarity, honesty, compassion and concern and f course truth! Okay, okay I'll be that man for the sake of sharing some important information such as this.. At any rate, buckle your seat belts and get ready as I reveal more insight on #WaysToTell if he likes you!

-Kenny